LOCATION OF LOVE

There are lots of us out there searching for love. We go to parties and listen to other couples tell their “how we met” story, and we wonder what our story will be like. Well one of the key ingredients of any how we met story, is “where we met”. The cliche, “looking for love in all the wrong places”, is a cliche for a reason. Guys, we are simply looking in the wrong places, so here are few tips for where and where not to search for that special someone.

• Vacation: Although being swept away by some beauty you met on an exotic beach on a tropical island is an exciting and spectacular occurrence, it’s rarely the beginning of a love story. Because like your love fling, vacations end. If you live in New York and you met someone wonderful in Miami, even though the time you guys shared was awesome, eventually you are going back home. And the brutal struggle of a long distance relationship usually just leaves both parties bitter. Enjoy your vacation, and leave it there.

• The Library/Coffee Shop: I know, nobody reads anymore right. But thankfully super large book store chains like Barnes and Noble and Borders offer a variety of books along with coffee and other materials that make it still a savvy place to go and perhaps meet someone. Places like this provide many ice breakers to get the conversation going. For example, “what are you reading”?

• The Club: Despite Usher Raymond’s pop song, “Love in this Club”, I am completely against looking for love in the club. Clubs are dark and dirty caves where men go to hunt ass. Can I put it any simpler? The heavy influence of alcohol rarely makes for a good decision of the heart. And although the ladies may not be in the club looking for a good boning, I doubt they are there looking for the father of her future children. Don’t confuse the drunken lust for romance.

• Bars/Lounge: Contrary to the hectic bass pounding atmosphere of the nightclub, I find the bar/lounge scene to very relaxing and less intense. People are eating, enjoying a drink, maybe watching the game. Spirits are at ease and the women don’t seem as concerned with looking a certain way vs. just enjoying themselves. Thus more approachable.  Where as offering a lady a drink at a club is likely to be interpreted as “I want to sleep with you”, the same offer at a lounge says, “I’d like to get to know you”. Even if for a guy, that is still attached to the “I’d like to sleep with you”, just further down the line.

There are a lot of great places out there for you to find a great person, and there are a lot of places where’d you find a bad one. You just need to know which one you are looking for, and where to look. Whether you’re looking for a good time or a “bad” time, I wish you much success.